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I was on Sarah Starr’s rad pocast! Check it out!

THIS was fun! I got to be a guest on Sarah Starr’s podcast,  Girl Gang Conversations, a podcast run by UK-based writer / editor / dream wrangler (!) Ms. Starrs. It’s a podcast all about the nitty gritty of living with passion and purpose. Yay! We had a solid chat about creativity and work, tarot, and journalling… and how I basically have no morning routine.

Take a spin around her other podcasts if you like a good inspirational listen. Aaaaaaan subscribe on itunes and give this hard werkin’ gyal a 5 star review. Because she deserves it.

 

Williams S. Burroughs on Dreams and Writing About Them

What a trippy man William S. Burroughs was. Not just because he used a lot of drugs, but because he also made super effective use of dreams as creative inspo.

I remember reading Naked Lunch in University and feeling like it was a bizarre, dream-like experience. Nothing in it felt quite in it’s right place, in an eerie, kind of magical realism way, (the insect typewriter, the foliage-filled apartment, the constant changing of everything that’s usually constant in film) but it all kind of fit together and made sense. Like a dream. Then I discovered that Burroughs faithfully kept a dream journal. Obv!

He used his dream journal to fuel his work, too. In this lecture he actually says, “I’ve in fact picked up a book in a dream and read it and then I’m able sometimes to transcribe that later when I’m awake.”

IMAGINE.

So, I’ve never come close to doing anything remotely like writing a full-on novel from a dream, but I do write about my dreams often. I think it’s an interesting and experimental way to write – you’re not entirely the guide, but you are. You’re just getting to know what you already came up with.

Burroughs shares a built-in writing prompt in this lecture:

“I made a collection of dream phrases, those words that occurred in dreams are often just words between sleeping and waking and you get a peculiar sort of grammar. If I can remember: where naked troubadours shoot snotty baboons, is one.”

In the liminal space where our subconsious ramblings meet our rational minds, the strange grammar of some deep self emerges. This can be a huge source of personal insight. Words are huge symbols.

I like the idea of collecting the random statements and words that come up in this dream space, because it’s a really not-overwhelming way to dive into the subconscious. (And it’s about as much as I have time for in the morning.) This is what a dream journal should be, I think. Sometimes, when it comes to diving into journalling, less is more.

Download the full 90 mins of this lecture here.

7 Quotes About Empowered Self-Care

 

Self-care isn’t always fun. Sometimes there’s a lot of resistance around it. It takes real drive and focus to develop helpful habits, find the right supports we know we need, and generally, be good parents to ourselves. We’re all busy, we all have packed schedules. It’s up to us to make sure that we stay a priority, in the midst of all the other pressing priorities on our plates. That takes a certain kind of strength.
Here are 7 quotes that have made me feel a little more inspired to own my self-care lately.

“Don’t view problems as red flags. Look at how to solve the issues they raise. See what the potential is.”
– Harvey Schachter via A four-step process for overcoming resistance to creativity in Globe and Mail
“My self-care is meaningless if it’s focused on anything other than growing & healing.”
– Jean Boampong via Rethinking Self-Care When is it just avoidance? in Rookie

“It’s the slow build that makes you into the person that can handle what it is you want. So don’t pressure yourself or berate yourself or criticize yourself by saying to yourself well I couldn’t handle that anyway, I’d definitely would drop the ball on that… it’s OK to be the kind of person who would run away, because you’re training yourself to come to a point where you can handle what you want.”

– Kelly-Ann Maddox in Wonderworker Biz Riff: You’re Not Ready and That’s Ok on Soundcloud

“I learned to embrace my flaws, to make no apology for who I am. I dug deep and I decided that I simply wouldn’t listen when they said my body didn’t fit. This is who I am, the real me, Kate from Reading.”

– Kate Winslet via her WE Day UK speech covered by Vanity Fair

“The internet is neither good nor bad. It’s neutral – it becomes for each of us what we bring to it.”

Glennon Doyle Melton via Oprah magazine, March issue

“My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who I am. To take pride in my thoughts, in my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t possibly be loved as much as I am.”

– Anais Nin popped up via The Hoodwitch’s IG

“Where some people have a self, most people have a void, because they are too busy in wasting their vital creative energy to project themselves as this or that.”

 

On Cultivating a “Fertile” State of Mind – Musings & Journal Prompts

I’ve been thinking about the concept of “fertility” lately. Partly because it’s almost spring (…wishful thinking?) and also because I’ve been pulling The Empress card for myself a bunch.

As “the archetypal Earth Mother” – a symbol of abundance, creativity, and fertility, The Empress card speaks volumes to me, as someone who does creative work for a living.

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The Empress figure is anchored into the outdoors, chilling in a chair with a pillow, wearing a big-ass muumuu, while corn grows at her feet and a river flows behind her. She’s totally integrated into this outdoor scene, completely calm and at ease.

She’s obviously a very earthy figure, but is also somewhat goddess-like, with a crown of stars on her head, which shows higher connection to the divine, and a string of pearls on her neck, symbolizing the 7 chakras. She’s got dominion over the universe and the body.

As someone who is so connected, she nurtures her creations into being. Like an “an artist of life.” She’s powerful and it’s effortless.

It’s disarming.

I resist her quietly commanding ways, her ability to have had her needs met, to accept her needs, to be a human, unapologetically. I feel humbled when I look at her sitting there, looking back at me, with no expression to be read. She is.

And she leaves me to consider me, sitting here, looking at her… wanting answers.

In her quiet power, she asks that I see her as I see anyone else, in any of my relationships – as a mirror. And my resistance to seeing her humanness is my resistance to seeing my humanness. It’s as simple as that. This chill-ass lady’s stare leads me to wonder – what does “being fertile” feel like to me? Just being? Being in the constant flow of aliveness? Ready to engage with the present moment with intention?

This is not effortless for me. I am cerebral. I work hard. I try.

But I suspect that the less I try, the less I plan, the less I manipulate, the more fully-realized my creative work seems. The more fulfilling it is. The happier I am. I want to feel fertile.

Mel Robbins said: “You can’t always control what you feel, but you can always make a decisions to act.” So, if I want to feel fertile, how can I support that starting with my thoughts? My decisions? My actions?

I went on a journal tirade and wrote a bunch about this. A lot of questions came up. Here are a few of them as journal prompts:


What is fertility, to you?

What does fertility look like in your life? What shape does it take in your environment? Your work? Relationships?

What does fertility feel like?

When do you feel most creative and engaged?

What feels ready to bloom now?

What needs to be chopped away?

What do you currently deny yourself? Laughter? Time? Play?

What does it feel like to be open to receive? In conversation? In relationships?

How do you put pressure on yourself to control situations? Socially? At work? Personally?

What does it feel like to be in your power?

It’s said that “creativity thrives within structure.” What are the structures in your life currently and how do you use them to your advantage?

What is your collaboration style when it comes to working with people?

What is your relationship with your creative process like? Do you rush your creative projects, or do you give them time to become what they are?

What is your relationship to your inner child? Do you give it what it wants?

In what ways do you support dialogue and communication around you?

How can I use social media / the internet in a way that helps support, not hamper, a growth mindset?

In what ways do you protect your energy, or stay emotionally-detached, day to day? What rituals or thoughts help?

What is your relationship to change? How do you support yourself in welcoming it?

What other forms of wealth exist in your life aside from money?

How can you “think wealthy?”

What are you effortlessly grateful for?

If you liked this, read more about of my thoughts on staying steeped in a creative state / the feminine energy at work.

A Journal Exercise to Own Self-Expression

          “I am my own muse, I am the subject I know best. The subject I want to know better.”

– Frida Kahlo

It’s important to know ourselves and our needs, and to express them.

Why? Because genuine self-expression can be really powerful. It’s disarming.  It has always had the potential to be radical. Even small acts of authentic self expression can have a profound effect for us, and the people around us, and beyond.

If we want to make marks on the world, have meaningful relationships, and demonstrate influence in the spheres we operate within, it’s up to us to take control of our self-expression. To make it a priority. To practice it. To own it. Here’s a journal prompt to firm up the intention to own self-expression:

List 10 new things you want to do for yourself that could make it easier for you to give outward in a high-quality way. For example:

  1. I could delegate tasks at work differently.
  2. I could let myself declare myself off limits after 7 PM, one or two nights a week, and use that time to write / paint / etc.
  3. I could revisit my to-do list and ask myself what do I really want to do? What do I actually hate?

Come up with 10.

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How will you keep yourself accountable to the intention?

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This is an excerpt from my e-zine, How to Write Until You Feel Better for Real which you can find on my Etsy shop.

Image via Artodessy 🙏

30 Journal Prompts For 2017 Goal Planning

New Years resolutions made in the spirit of “dragging ourselves toward some totally new thing or state of being” suck. They totally don’t work, and they’re just a way we try and fool ourselves into thinking we can magically one day become someone we aren’t. This isn’t helpful. It’s trickery. It’s taking the easy way out, masked in a feeling of discomfort.

What I think is a better practice for New Year goal-setting is to revisit and clarify our intentions. In all areas of our life. Because there’s no thriving that exists in a silo. Renewed clarity and focus to guide our actions for the year ahead is starting off on a much better foot, I say.

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Jaclyn Roach on Motherhood, Preserving Memories & the Myth of Being Prepared

“You can’t just leave and go home to your bed and your Netflix series in the middle of the day when you’re the mom…”


Jaclyn Roach and I go way back. Like, elementary school way back. We were friends when Barbies were number one on my recreational radar and crossing Mount Pleasant Street was a big deal. Now, Jaclyn is an-all-grown-up boss with a full time job and a full time man, a house, and a cute AF daughter. She’s got her shit together. And I am in awe. I interviewed her about how she makes it all work, and manages to maintain her fail-proof sense of humour.

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