“Finding permission” has been an active daily mission of mine since I locked down kaitfowlie.com and have been writing and sharing more from it. Finding the specific content and communities that make me feel “got’ and real hopeful, is a need, not a want, on journey in writing. Authenticity is our personal brand’s greatest asset (and the universe can’t resist it), and that feeling of permission is like a green light for my innermost authentic and hungry doer.
The more external ”permission slips” I collect, the better equipped I am to know how to write my own, for me, whenever I want. That’s a skill I want to have. I think it’s an important skill for all writers, or anyone who wants to put their opinions out into the world. Not because everyone who has an opinion should, but because I think those who care enough to try to make a good case for theirs had better do it from a place of personal power.
(Per Psychology Today: personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence that individuals gradually acquire in the course of their development… This type of power represents a movement toward self-realization and transcendent goals in life; its primary aim is mastery of self, not others.)
We have to write what we know, right? Just one true sentence is an admirable goal – but if we don’t think our perspective is “good enough,” we won’t get much done. I wish there were ready-made permission slips (or maps to find them) for all, but they’re different for everyone. Some of my (online) permission slips have looked like affirmative Facebook group discussions, people who make content and it’s not “perfect” and I love it, my supportive internal audience. Whatever reminds me how right it feels to let my inner compass be my guide. Whatever reminds me how much I actually… like myself.
I said it. I make no apology. I cherish this.
You have to get a kick out of yourself, Danielle Laporte said, if you want to speak and write. This makes perfect sense to me. This is owning a sense of creative entitlement at it’s most personal.
Creative entitlement, as Liz Gilbert fans will know, is what she defines as the force that allows us to take creative risks, ask questions and venture into the unexpected – and beautiful. It’s about “believing that you are allowed to be here, and believing that — merely by being here, merely by existing — you are allowed to have a voice and a vision of your own.”) Getting a kick out of yourself and creative entitlement makes a winning team for creators.
Our work may not always earn awards or tons of cash, but feeling basically entitled enough to do it, and doing it, is a success in and of itself. Liz explains, “(creative entitlement is) a force that will actually take you OUT OF YOURSELF and allow you to engage more fully with the world. Because often what keeps you from living your most creative and adventurous and expressive life IS your self-absorption (your self-doubt, your self-disgust, your self-judgment, your crushing sense of self-protection).”
Creative entitlement presents the solution to the problem it presupposes – we can’t be entitled to create and also feel down on ourselves, stuck in our heads, hung up on our bodies, etc. etc. To own creative entitlement is a success, and success begets more success. Finding whatever gives us permission to get a kick out ourselves, to be in our power, to write from a place of authenticity, is a key strategy in our being able to give, and add value in our offering.
It’s about owning our own unique value proposition – identifying, embodying, and fulfilling.